Fast Confidence [How To Be More Confident │Confidence Building] from Sharon Melnick, Ph.D.
Finally! Harvard Medical School Researcher Reveals the Secret to Flipping the Switch from Self-Doubt to Self-Confidence!
(within 7 days without ever going back to the ‘old way’ again)
From: The Desk of Sharon Melnick, Ph.D.
Tuesday, January 5, 2016
Friend, Here are a few questions….
- Do you doubt yourself, even though you are talented – and believe that others are better than you even if they’re not?
- Do you hold yourself back from speaking up at work or at home – and then stew about it later?
- Are you your own worst critic and take things personally?
- Do you want to be the “go to person”, but you still procrastinate?
- Have you ever bought a book, taken a course, or tried using willpower to help you become more successful and comfortable in your own skin…but you still feel like the same person?
If so, you may now realize you’ve wasted a lot of time and energy, and have missed out on a lot more income.
But those days are soon to be over!!
I can show you how to quickly and permanently change your self-criticism and self-doubts into a quiet confidence. And then you’ll be able to put secure money in the bank, gain a notch of leadership effectiveness, and allow enjoyment back into your life)
If the old way for you was procrastination, perfectionism, and people pleasing, let’s welcome in a future in which you take action, think you are smart enough, and stay rational instead of reactive. The Transformations You’ll Make Are Fast, and Forever, not the usual “Change for 2 Weeks Then Go Back To The Old Way.”
And your newfound confidence won’t take 10 years in therapy, either! Within 7 days, you – and other people in your life – will already notice a difference.
How can I make such a bold claim?
Because, despite having led clinical research at Harvard Medical School and taught over 7000 businesspeople in my programs, I’ve been where you are at this very moment.
My name is Dr. Sharon Melnick. I’m a business psychologist, and a trainer to people like you — someone who just needs to solve that one small “missing” piece from the puzzle to take your career and relationships to a much higher level than now.
Although people who know me now find it hard to believe, I used to be a pretty insecure, people pleasing kind of person. My first question was always “What will other people think of me”. I thought I needed to know everything and if I didn’t I criticized myself for being “stupid”. I was told I was very good in my career, but inside I still felt I wasn’t good enough or far along enough, at least compared to others.
Back then, I didn’t feel I deserved at seat at the table. I often didn’t speak up at meetings or in my relationships- then I kicked myself about it later. I spun my wheels thinking about ideas but didn’t take action on them. I honestly wondered how those ‘successful’ people could make it look so effortless. Inside I wondered ‘what’s wrong with ME?”
I read all those books that said “You have to look within”. Well, I’ll tell you I looked within and all I saw was a person who was self critical and fearful! That didn’t help me build confidence, I assure you.
But through my research, and personal life experiences, I figured out that I was going about trying to build my confidence the wrong way. The slow way, the long way. The way that prevented me from ever arriving at that confidence at the core.
You see, the more I tried to get other’s approval, the more I always needed their approval. The more I prevented their criticism, the more I needed to keep preventing their criticism or rejection. I was caught up in a never ending cycle that I would never get out of, (and then I would blame myself for it.) Only because I had never really built that rock solid confidence IN MYSELF. I was only putting my efforts into trying to get it from someone else. With all the time I spent trying to prevent others’ criticism I probably could have built some really strong money-making skills!
So I learned how to get that quiet confidence from within myself, even though when I started I didn’t really believe in myself. I developed the self-confidence to not only have a seat at the table, but also now I even “own the room” in front of hundreds and even thousands of up-and-coming business professionals like you everyday.
In fact, here are just some of the organizations I’ve taught these skills to: Procter and Gamble, Merck, Oracle, GE, Deloitte, Freddie Mac, Visiting Nurse’s Service NY, American Management Association, National Association of Female Executives, Women Presidents Organization, Success Television, and many others.
And here are some of the media organizations who seek my advice so they can share with their readers how to build confidence.
Everyday I meet businesspeople who tell me about how much relief they would feel, how different life would be if they could just have a deep confidence in themselves.
Think for a moment about what successes you would have had this year if you had been 10x more confident than you are now? How much more money would you have put away for savings or used to have experiences with your family?
How many days would you have gotten home earlier from the office having gotten a lot more done?
What if you had been a much more confident leader? Who would be coming to work with you if you were that magnetic?
You too could have that feeling of fearlessness. Then when you have an idea, you’ll act on it. Then you will speak your true opinion in a meeting or in relationships. You could have peace of mind and RELIEF from the endless obsessing and negative thoughts. Just imagine how much easier it will be to get things done and get through the day when you are not battling against yourself and getting caught in the downward spiral of negative thoughts.