Selfmastery Courses Bundle by Cathryn Lavery

Do you want to become the best version of yourself? Maybe you have goals you want to accomplish and a vision of your ideal future. Or maybe you just know you want to improve and be the best you can be.

If so, you’re looking to develop self-mastery. You achieve self-mastery by clearly understanding who you want to be and making that dream a reality.

Although it’s an arduous journey with many roadblocks and distractions, personal mastery is a worthy objective. You can find happiness, personal fulfillment, and financial success if you set your sites on meaningful targets and continually strive for their improvement.

But self-mastery is not the completion of a goal – it’s the ongoing pursuit of personal betterment. It’s a difficult four-step process with no finale. You need to:

Before you begin your journey to develop self-mastery, you need to figure out what you truly want to accomplish. This sounds like an easy task, but it takes personal digging and self-awareness.

Self-mastery requires the continual development of a passionate and pleasurable skill set. Often, this skill set will add value to other people or organizations. Although, like artists who paint for their own desires and not the approval of others, it’s not necessary.

You can only find your path if you’re completely truthful with yourself. Self-honesty is crucial if you want to find happiness with your direction in life.

Do this by listening to your emotions and answering deep questions. What makes you feel good? What do you truly enjoy doing? If you had all the money in the world, what would you spend your time doing?

You’re striving for pure awareness. Beware the white lies you tell yourself to avoid cognitive dissonance. Instead, find the activities and beliefs in your life that don’t align with your ambitions and values and remove them. Find the ones that make you feel alive and go after them. Be honest with yourself. This is how you find your calling.

When you listen to your true, inner desires, you’ll discover your calling so you can pursue personal mastery.

Self-mastery is a never-ending adventure. A true master understands there is always more to learn.

Finding the information to learn your desired skill set is not difficult. You may have to perform research and sift through bad advice, but you’ll find what you need.

The more important aspect of your learning is your mindset. Always have a beginner’s mind, even as you become an expert. Do this by testing new ideas, learning different theories, and questioning your existing knowledge. Instill constant curiosity into your way of thinking.

Learning takes time. You’ll hit plateaus at times and your growth will make leaps and bounds at others, but you want to aim for steady progress over the long-run. Avoid burnout but keep chugging along by making education a daily habit.

The most important component of learning is feedback, which you get from two main sources. The first source is the results produced by performing or practicing your skill. If you want to master cooking, how did your meal taste? That is critical feedback. The quality of this feedback depends on your ability to judge your results, which will improve over time if you keep educating yourself.

The second source of feedback is through other people – ideally those who are masters themselves. Coaches and mentors are excellent sources of feedback because of their extensive knowledge. They will point out your flaws and teach you how to improve faster than any other method. But don’t discount the value of an audience or peer. Even with limited expertise, they can provide valuable feedback and help you grow faster. Listen to your instincts though. Don’t blindly accept advice and use your best judgment to decide if a critique is valid.

Learning how to achieve your goals is an essential step of self-mastery, but it’s easy to let it get in your way. Learning shouldn’t take precedence over action, where the real learning and accomplishments take place. Once you know what your goals are, you should spend about ten percent of your time learning how to do them, and ninety percent of your time working toward them and practicing your skills.

Now that you know what you want, and you know how to get it, you need to put in the effort necessary to achieve your goals. Self-mastery takes hard work and there are no shortcuts.

As mentioned in the last section, shoot for steady progress. This will only happen if you show up day after day and get to work.

Do you want to be the best writer you can be? Sit down and write more than 1,000 words every single day.

Do you want to be the best teacher you can be? Find students and teach every single day.

It doesn’t matter what your goal is. You can only learn so much from reading, watching videos, and completing lesson plans. You must do the thing you want to master, even when you’re terrible at it.

In the beginning, you’ll be horrible. That’s okay. For a while, you’ll be pretty bad. That’s okay. You won’t be great for a long time. That’s okay. If you can learn to enjoy the process, the sky’s the limit.

Self-mastery requires inner strength. Without self-discipline and self-control, seductive distractions will steer you away from your duty and you’ll never achieve the level of sophistication you desire.

That’s why it’s so crucial to know exactly what you want. You need the ability to determine whether something is important or distracting. Self-awareness and honesty will help you make these decisions.

Use your strength to build a daily habit of doing and practicing your craft. Not only will you get better at your favorite skills, but it will have a ripple effect on the rest of your life. You’ll notice you only spend time on activities that are important to you, which makes you happier and more successful in all your endeavors – if you have the right mindset.

None of this matters if it doesn’t make your life better. And the quality of your life is largely determined by your mindsets and the way you see the world.

For starters, you can’t be dependent on a specific outcome. That’s a recipe for depression. Too often, people chase mastery for the benefits others received from it.

They see how many fans a famous singer has, so they want to sing. They see their friend make more money working only 10 hours per week, so they want to get into internet marketing.

This is disastrous. Although many benefits often come from self-mastery, they cannot be the reason for it. You need to appreciate the direct benefits of the skills you’re developing and enjoy the process. For example, if you want to become a master architect, don’t do it because you want to be a rich and famous architect. Do it because you love designing beautiful, elegant, efficient, effective buildings that fulfill specific purposes. If you can make peace with yourself when you receive no income or praise for what you’re doing, you’ll be much happier.

Self-love is an under-appreciated concept. What’s the point of striving for greatness if you can’t love yourself in the process? The whole reason for self-mastery is to make your life better. If you can enjoy the process and love yourself while doing it, happiness and success will likely follow.

All of this advice may seem like common sense, but people rarely put it to use. If you work toward personal mastery, you’ll outperform your peers by a large margin.

Put effort into figuring out what you want, then learn how to do it and keep learning. But spend most of your time putting in the work. If you can do that, while loving the work and yourself in the process, you’ll achieve your highest level of ability possible.

Are you already working towards self-mastery? What skills are you trying to master? Let us know if the comments below!

We used to be just like you.

It’s true! We’re Cathryn & Allen, the co-founders of Best Self Co. (Hi.)

A few years ago, we were running a total of three businesses — Cathryn had hers, Allen had his, and we ran a joint venture together.

So yeah. We had a lot on our plates.

We were working harder than ever, but we both felt like hamsters on a wheel.

We were overwhelmed. Frustrated.

And worst of all, we weren’t having any fun.

We wanted to take back our time. To have clear direction on who should be focusing on what, and when. To feel that all our hard work actually meant something.

We wanted to make meaningful progress in our business and lives — every. single. day.

We needed a SYSTEM.

So we did what any overachieving business owner would do — we made one from scratch.

That system eventually became our first product, The SELF Journal, which is now in its 3rd edition, with over 10,000 units sold.

Since then, we’ve developed dozens of additional products, won multiple awards, and been featured in Business Insider, Inc, Huffington Post, and more. We even recently got endorsed by Daymond John of Shark Tank, who called our product a “must have for all entrepreneurs.”

Aw shucks, Daymond.. 🙂